You women!

There aren’t too many things that scare me: Extreme heights, natural (not to mention man-made) disasters, trips to the dentist, tax audits…..and women who see fit to give the rest of us a bad name.

I’m noticing a trend that has me seriously concerned. Recently, in speaking with several male individuals at different times, both friends and acquaintances, I’ve been hearing the “You women….” phrase followed by a derogatory remark concerning female game- playing or some other feminine debauchery pitted against an already inherently fragile emotional male psyche.

I can understand being suspicious and cautious when entering into a new relationship, but this is ridiculous

Specifically, women who prey on unsuspecting men; tugging at their heartstrings, using them for their money or their status, trapping them by getting pregnant — the list goes on and on. What results is a mere shell of a man who will forever be a suspicious emotional cripple. He’s damaged goods before the “right” girl comes along — in other words, he’s “wrecked” already.

Somewhere down the line, these women were given the wrong lessons in dealing with the opposite sex, or were “wrecked” themselves by some predatory male in the past. I can understand being suspicious and cautious when entering into a new relationship, but this is ridiculous. Resentful and vindictive behavior have no place in the relationship arena. Don’t make the next poor unsuspecting schnook pay for what the last infantile creep put you through. That just isn’t right.

In addition to the women who seem to make a career of using men, I’m also talking about women who just can’t seem to make up their minds when engaging in a serious committed relationship scenario. For instance, pitting one guy up against another, and professing undying love for both. I consider that to be simple unadulterated abuse — not to mention downright greedy. Cut them both loose and start over. Obviously you don’t know what you want. If you’re genuinely confused, it would serve you well to step back and look at what you’re doing and decide what you really want.

I’d like to think that it’s only the fact that women are trying to emotionally catch up with all of the options that are available to them in this day and age, while doing damage control at the same time. For the most part, we all have this primal urge to nest, and unfortunately that tendency can been upstaged by career aspirations, acquisition of money, and a multiple choice of “soul mates” at our disposal. Not to mention the underlying fear of being alone and the infamous “biological clock” ticking our lives away. However, just because we have these choices and fears doesn’t mean that we should give in to them.

Sure, it’s plenty scary out there. But I find it even scarier that I am now beginning to be associated with and reduced down to a derogatory social stereotype by virtue of my gender.

Andrea See all posts by Andrea
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