We have all asked ourselves this question at least once in our life. It’s human nature. “What if I had not broken up with him?”, “What if I had taken that job offer?” What if?
…in the long run, if your first choice was NOT the best choice, it was a learning experience.
We all wonder what the other side of the fence looks like and what may lie behind door number 2. It could be better, but it could be worse. We are always seeking the best in life, and what if the other thing is better than what was chosen?
I once broke up with a wonderful guy because he wanted to get serious. He was 21 at the time, and I was 36. I had already had a few serious relationships and really just wanted to be carefree with this one and have fun. I truly enjoyed him and the relationship, but I knew if I let it get any more serious, there would be trouble. No, I didn’t WANT to break up with him. I chose to though. 3 months later he got a great job offer, moved 1500 miles away and met the girl of his dreams. What if I not chosen to make the decision I did? He may have left with guilty feelings, hurt feelings, he may not have left at all. It was the right choice even though it hurt. What if we had stayed together? I would not have met the man of my dreams.
I see a lot of people in relationships asking themselves “What if I meet someone who is better?” I can tell you, but you won’t believe me. Nothing is better. What you have chosen is the best for you right now. And in the long run, if your first choice was NOT the best choice, it was a learning experience. The wise are wise because they learned from the choices they made in their life. If you are living day to day with small thoughts in your head that something else might be better, you are not living your life for the day. You are taking good feelings away from the situation you are in. If you are in a bad relationship, bad job, etc, that is one thing. Make the changes necessary to better those circumstances. But do not make the mistake of having your mind in other places and dragging what is probably a good thing, down. Each circumstance of your life deserves to be treated with thought, respect, and caring.
It’s only human nature to wonder…But how about living for the moment and loving and appreciating everything for what it is NOW? You may find you truly love what you already have and devoting that energy towards it now instead of wondering, may make it all even better than you imagined.