It’s been over a year since my boyfriend and I broke up. The last time I saw him was a year ago. I’ve emailed him a few times since. He says he hasn’t dated anyone since we parted (I believe him because he’s a very honest person) and that he doesn’t want to have anything to do with girls; he’s had opportunities, but he’s turned them down.
I, on the other hand, have done my best to move on, but it’s just not working. I’ve dated a bit, I even moved in with another guy (it didn’t last), thinking I would get over my ex. I don’t even want to be around men as friends anymore. All I think about is my ex and I compare everyone else I meet to him (although what else I’ve met isn’t so great). I still feel he is my true love and no one can compare to him.
What is the best way of getting over someone? I would think that after a year I’d be well over it, but it’s not working that way for me. I’ve never felt like this about anyone before and it really hurts.
First of all, stop emailing him. You believe what he says because you WANT to believe the lies this man is telling you! Honey, get together with a bunch of girlfriends, get drunk, have fun and let this guy go. Only you are holding yourself back, not some kink of fate. You deserve better than to let yourself be hung up on some guy who “doesn’t want anything to do with girls.” And don’t make the mistake of latching on to some other guy. Live it up, be single and find yourself. Getting over someone is all up to you, so just do it!
Sounds like you’re suffering from “Typicalus femaleitis.” This affliction strikes all females at one time or another where they construct the image of a perfect male in their heads, and anyone not stacking up to this phantasmal dillusion is thwarted by his inadequacies.
If this guy is such a golden monument of perfectionism, then why not get back with him? Why did you break up in the first place? You may just need to go out and sow your oats … that will get you over him.
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