Get in his head before you get in his bed

Recently, on a particularly rainy night, I decided to drag out some of my old movies and cocoon myself in my favorite blanket, my dog, and other creature comforts. I had no idea that I would come to the revelation that I did that night.

The movie in question was, It’s a Wonderful Life. Yes, that’s the one with Jimmy If you’re just looking to get laid, … (just do it safely). But if you’re looking for a long-term relationship, get into that guy’s head rather than in his pants Stewart and Donna Reed. Right smack in the middle of this movie was the steamiest scene ever recorded on film in my opinion. If you recall, the scene where they’re both talking on the phone to a friend in New York. Not a single stitch of clothing is shed during the entire scene, but you could cut through the sexual tension with a knife. It is truly intense. If you don’t believe me, go rent it and see for yourself.

Which brings me to the point in question…..where is that anticipation and sexual tension now? Is the art of courtship nearing extinction? I submit that we live in a society of instant gratification complicated by the aftereffects of the extreme feminist movement. There are exceptions, of course, but this is more often the rule. Guys seem to be confused as to what their role is in terms of relationships…..the natural instinct to conquer is there, but it’s clouded by all of the nonsense associated with the “sexual revolution.” Who won that by the way?

Back to Jimmy and Donna…..In the movie, it took them years…..years… get to that kiss. It would seem to be to our benefit to slow down, get to know one another, develop a relationship before hopping in the sack. I know it sounds puritanical — but look around, the other way doesn’t seem to be working.

Most guys that I put this question to didn’t even realize that there was a problem until I pointed out certain aspects such as relationship duration, head games, the tendency to wander once the girl in question had sex with them. It just seemed like too much work. Don’t get me wrong…..guys aren’t the only ones to blame. Nothing happens to us girls that we don’t let happen. We all need to ask ourselves, “What do I really want?”

If you’re just looking to get laid, just keep doing what you’re doing (just do it safely). But if you’re looking for a long-term relationship, may I suggest getting into that guy’s head rather than in his pants. You can weed out a lot of schnooks that way. Not to mention, when you finally do have your moment, be it a kiss or actual sex, it will be that much more intense and meaningful because you held off.

Just imagine, packing all of that energy into a simple kiss…

Andrea See all posts by Andrea
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