Booty call, things that go bump in the night

It’s 11:00p.m. and the phone rings. It’s your ex and he wants you to come over. Can you say “Booty Call”? I don’t think he’s having you over to spend time together even though he may say that. The “Booty Call” can be a wonderful thing or it can suck the big one ladies. It really depends on who you do it with and why. Here are some examples of a few different ways to get that “booty” when you want it and the consequences you may have to face.

The Friend

First, we have the “special friend”. He’s the guy you hang out with, are really great friends with, but don’t have the desire to really “be” with him in a relationship for Sometimes the fantasy is oh so ever more satisfying than the act whatever reason. This can be quite satisfying when you’re in need. I suggest talking about it openly with him to make sure it’s clear that nothing is going to come out of it except a couple of really good sweat sessions. If he is cool with this and so are you, then great! Go for it! Just remember that at some point one of you may actually meet someone you want to be with and this may make the other person a bit upset. If your willing to take the chance of rocky waters when this happens then hopefully your friendship will be able to move through the storm. If not, oh well, get a new friend.

The “Stranger”

Next, we have the stranger who just moved into the complex. He’s really yummy. One night he comes over and asks if you want to “hang out” at his place and watch movies. Yeah, right. You go over and he’s on you like butter on bread. Now, this could also get complicated. Remember, he’s your neighbor. You’ll have to see him every day. Unless you really think he’s the man of your dreams, I suggest declining from his offer no matter how hard it is. Pardon the pun. Sometimes the fantasy is oh so ever more satisfying than the act.

The Ex

Finally, we have the ex. This one is the most difficult. There are emotions involved whether you think he’s a jerk or a really nice guy. It’s easy to be with someone that you’ve already been intimate with. Hopefully you got to know each other’s body well and what the other liked in bed. Although some guys never really get it, most do. He calls you or you call him and you both know why the other is calling. You end up in each other’s arms and the next thing you know Wham, Bam, Thank You Mam! Was it worth it? Probably not. But hopefully you got something out of the experience.

If your going to do this, I suggest talking openly about what the other’s expectations are from the experience. If your trying to weasle your way back in his life, don’t have a “booty call” with him. You shouldn’t have to weasle into anyone’s life. If you both have no desire to get back together then it may be ok but just remember that again, one of you will eventually meet someone and be cut off. If he’s one of those guys who is dating a bunch of women and having sex with you on the side, chances are pretty good he was doing the same thing when he dated you. Be glad you got rid of him. He’s gross and you don’t want that kind of karma on your hands.

Sometimes you’ll have a lonely night where your hormones are racing and you decide to say “Hell with it” and actually make a “booty call”. It could be just what you need. Fine, call, tell him what he wants to hear. Charm him. B.S. about how great of a guy he is and how you love him blah, blah, blah, and get what you wanted.

Consequences

Remember with any scenario, there are consequences ladies. “Booty Calls” can be either just what the doctor ordered or a doorway to Hell. Be smart and know who your dealing with. Remember that when you have sex with someone you don’t know well yet, you don’t really know who your getting involved with. You could become attached to a real jerk. Before you know it, you’re in a really destructive relationship, not to mention that yes, V.D. does exist in our world and you also need to be responsible for your body. Always use protection.

All in all, I would say that “booty calls” can be satisfying at the moment but that’s pretty much it. Most women I have talked to about this subject agree. They can be so ever powerful at the time yet so very painful afterwards. Ask yourself if it’s really worth it. Sometimes it’s really nice to hold all that sensuality in your own body and not let anyone have it. Feel your own power as a woman — know it, live it. Men will flock to you like the lions they are. You can be the hyena chasing up scraps or you can be the lioness and make him work for it! You’re worth it girlfriend!

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